You know, when everything seems to go wrong. No matter what you try to do to change your mood and get out of a funk, it just seems impossible.
The thing is, it is possible to limit those days to the bare minimum and take action to ensure that most of your days are full of happiness and contentment.
This is not down to luck, circumstances or anything else that is beyond your control.
Of course, things will conspire against you from time-to-time. That’s just life!
But… and here’s the key…
You can follow 6 simple habits everyday that will make sure you deal with any setback and get your life back on track!
These 6 simple habits will allow you to remain firmly in the driving seat, create your own happy days and not allow circumstances to dictate your mood ever again.
1. Keep Cool
Let’s face it – life can make us mad! It is very easy to feel frustrated, angry and resentful. The first step to taking control and regaining happiness is to say calm and relaxed. You can’t always control how other people behave, but you absolutely can control how you decide to respond.
Take a deep breath, walk away or just smile to yourself and think ‘I’m above this… I will not let this person or situation decide how I am going to feel’.
It’s not easy to start with, but over time you will find that you are able to take control and the best way to start is simple … just begin by noticing when you feel angry, resentful or frustrated. Awareness if truly the first powerful step to self-control.
2. Switch Off
One of the biggest barriers to genuine happiness in the modern world is the constant bombardment of stimulation we face every day. Everyone wants a piece of you! From family and work commitments, keeping up with social media, television, hobbies, developing yourself and looking good, it’s like you are always ‘switched on’.
Everyone needs to learn when enough is enough. A great strategy is to have times when you switch off all devices (TV, pc, laptop, tablet, phone etc) and just sit and breathe. Maybe listen to some calming music and just focus on your breathing to regain some peace of mind and clarity.
It can be as simple as a ten minute walk in the open air where no one can contact you (phone off) and all you hear is your own footfall as you gently stroll along and let it all go.
3. Watch Your Words
This is a big one! Try to catch your language and check whether you are being positive or not. If you talk like the glass is half-full, then that’s what you will experience. Many people have a ‘limited’ mindset where they see only problems and difficulties and what will go wrong.
‘Listen’ to what you think and say … are you expecting the worst? Do you talk about things being huge difficulties or ‘nightmares’ or do you see them as challenges and opportunities? The words you use (either in your own head or out loud) will shape how you perceive the world around you.
Choose a positive ‘growth’ mindset where you see the potential in everything and enjoy the playfulness in every challenge you encounter!
4. Visualise Success
Half the battle of being happy is imagining that it is possible to start with!
So many people just move from thing to another with no road map for a happy life. If you have no destination in mind, then you’ll end up anywhere. It is important to set clear goals and then imagine what it will feel like when you achieve them.
Not only does this program your mind for success, but you actually get greater motivation by being deeply inspired to go after you goals with real enthusiasm. If you daydream and focus on what achieving your goals will feel like and mean to you, then you will totally ‘buy into’ them and you will be much more likely to follow through.
Not only that, but each time you focus on your dreams and imagine succeeding, you are mentally preparing yourself (as well as enjoying a reality ‘holiday’ that helps you rejuvenate as well as making the dream seem completely real to you!)
5. Connect With Others
It can be lonely trying to make your way through life without a helping hand. This is not about relying on others or refusing to take ownership.
The truth is, we all need to feel connected to others. Whether that is a life partner, friends, family or your community, humans need to feel anchored in the safe harbor of someone else’s support and love. It gives it all meaning, otherwise what is it all for?
Make sure you make time for people who inspire you and give you energy. We all need friends who just know how to encourage us and pick us up when we feel down. Spend time with these people and you will feel happier.
Just make sure you avoid the ‘negative ninnies’ in your life who drain you. You know these people – they offer you nothing and drain the life and energy from the room. Avoid them, cut them off and you will feel much better for it!
6. Be Playful
The last point is my favourite! Sometimes we all act like life is some super-serious struggle. It really doesn’t have to be like that. We are meant to be light-hearted creatures who are creative, easy-going and fun to be with.
Keep asking yourself … why be glum? What’s to worry about really? What great things are going to happen to me today? Instead just think …
Get ready world, ’cause I’m coming NOW! I’m alive, the world is magical, now let’s dance!
Laugh in the rain, smile at the people you meet and skip along the road. It’s all good, my friend! We are alive and the world is our playground. What shall we be today?
If you allow these 6 habits to become part of your day-to-day thinking, feeling and acting, then you will be naturally so much happier than you are now. They are simple, but really powerful habits that can totally change you life and unlock your natural happiness. So, start taking action today!