I’ve worked out one of the biggest mistakes I have been making for years…
I kept asking myself the wrong question.
I spent years preparing to make changes, carefully planning what I would do to in my life and being really clear about what I wanted.
And it’s a big ‘but’….
I didn’t follow through.
The more I think about it, the easier it is for me to see why I was so reluctant to fully commit and make sure that I actually took real, sustained action.
You see, the thing is… I spent far too long focusing on what the challenges, difficulties and problems might be.
I now focus on the opportunities, chances and potential!
It is a fundamental shift in mindset, and it sounds too simple to work, but it does.
This is the question I focused on in the past:
What could go wrong?
I had a defensive and negative point of view.
I was focused on what I could lose and all the things that could possibly go badly.
Now, to some people (including me in the past) this is not about being a ‘glass half-full’ sort of person. It’s more that they feel that if you anticipate what could go wrong, then you can take action to prevent it happening.
The problem with this idea is that as the great man, Tony Robbins says:
“Wherever focus goes, energy flows!”
In other words, if you decide to focus on the negative then you tend to look out for circumstances that validate that concern. Basically, you actually create worries and negative experiences by the very act of focusing on them.
Now that is definitely what I spent my time doing. How about you?
I can remember coming up with some plans that really excited me and then I would suddenly be hit by…
The ‘What if’ Truck
The ‘What if’ Truck speeds into your life every time you are on to something good.
You are speeding down the highway of life and everything seems great and then…
The ‘What if’ Truck side-swipes your dreams.
You start to ask yourself:
What if I don’t succeed?
What if no one likes my idea?
What if people laugh at me?
What if I try really hard and still don’t get what I want?
And so it goes on!
This is an example of your own focus on the negatives limiting your possibilities.
I know, because I did exactly that. In fact, I still have to keep an eye out for the ‘What if’ Truck as it’s always out there lurking in the back streets of my mind!
A better question…
What could go RIGHT?
This is what I try to ask myself now.
It instantly sets you up to look for hope, opportunity and chances.
When you think about it, why are we worried about making an effort and hoping to improve our lives?
Let’s analyse it a second…
Most people decide they don’t like how things are, so they begin taking action in order to make some positive changes.
So far, so good!
The trouble is it gets challenging. Any worthwhile change requires effort and some determination to succeed.
That’s when the ‘What Ifs’ kick in..
We question whether the effort will be worth it?
In our minds, we basically say “I do want to make this change, but if I put in the effort and it doesn’t work or it seems REALLY hard, then I don’t think I want to do it”
The thing is, the effort is it’s own reward.
I can honestly say that even attempting to change is a great feeling!
Let me ask you this…if you don’t try to change how will you feel?
If you’re like me, then probably frustrated and annoyed with yourself.
So…and this is the biggest thing…
Seriously, just give it a go. That is all you need to do.
Results will come but simply having a go is enough for you to feel SO much better.
Because YOU are in control and running YOUR OWN life.
You no longer will let life toss you around.
I’d love to hear how you keep motivated too! Please comment in the box below.
Cheers for now,