This is something that has been on my mind this week…
In order to make real progress and change my life I have had to work really hard to overcome resistance …
… Resistance to change!
We are creatures of habit and love the safe, secure comfort of what we are used to.
That means we are used to eating the same unhealthy food and sitting down on the same comfy sofa and developing the habit of chronic inactivity!
So that was a real challenge (and it still is!)
Writing this blog every week or so is not easy. I seem to find all sorts of reasons why I should be cleaning out kitchen cupboards, taking my cat for a walk(!) and staring at the little hairs on the back of my hands.
These ‘displacement activities’ take on a super-powerful pull at the thought of doing something which seems like ‘work’.
Once I start writing a new blog post I feel energised and like I am really expressing what I feel.
The truth is – starting is always hard.
But then you gain…M O M E N T U M ! ! !
It’s the same with any meaningful change in your life.
I found the same with changing my diet and increasing the amount of exercise I do.
I remember back in January going to the supermarket to buy some healthy diet food to kick-start my new life.
I felt a bit stupid putting all these nutritious foods in my basket.
Well – several reasons, I guess…
- I felt people would judge me for thinking I could lose weight
- I thought I would be bound to fail and waste my money
- I didn’t know what meals I could make with these ingredients
As I walked past many of my best treats (chocolate, cakes, pies, sweets etc) I felt that I was going t be losing out on so many things.
That’s why I nearly failed before I had begun.
I was far too focused on what I was losing rather than what I would be gaining.
To overcome resistance, you need to make the benefits have more value and meaning than the costs.
That’s it! It really is as simple as that.
When I started focusing on what I would be gaining from my new diet and exercise regime, it started to get a little easier.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s not EASY…just easier!
Being motivated is a constant challenge – you can’t afford to rest on your laurels. I had a couple of weeks off my diet and exercise program over Easter, and it wasn’t easy to get Back on Track, but I did.
I reminded myself that what I was gaining was so much more than what I was losing.
|Costs of Eating Healthy Food||Benefits of Eating Healthy Food|
|Some food is expensiveCan’t have chocolate and cakesDifficult to prepareNot as nice to eat||Feel strong and energeticLose weightLook greatHave clear, bright skin and hair
Able to concentrate
Relax and sleep better
Get out and be active
Now, this is not a simple case of counting up the number of points on each side.
‘Not as nice to eat’ is a powerful point that needs to be overcome.
The next step is to make the costs seem less significant and the benefits to seem really important.
So, now I create a compelling vision for all the benefits and actually imagine it as if it is already happening. So I see myself as slim, strong, fit, healthy and looking and feeling great.
This means that I have a clear and very real vision of why I am making these changes and what the outcomes will be.
It also means that I can ‘challenge the costs’ by examining the real cost.
For example, my major worry was that the new healthy food wouldn’t taste as nice.
It didn’t to start with. But my taste buds actually seemed to change with me, and I genuinely look forward each morning to porridge with raisins.
As to cost and not knowing what to do with the ingredients…these were genuine concerns, but I learned some new recipes with low cost and high nutritive value foods.
Overcoming resistance, is something we can all do if we just reframe how we see the world. You just need to turn up the positive and turn down the negative.
I’d love to hear how you manage resistance to keep moving forward in your life. Please comment below and share your best tips!